Fold the slips of paper and put them in a jar.Ģ) Over pizza or in a relaxed setting, the first partner draws a random question from the jar and answers it. If there are any off-limit subjects, agree on them in advance. The question can be philosophical, about past experiences or relationships, a silly question, practical question, a 'what would you do scenario' or a question about life priorities, dreams, or values. It has to be a question that applies to both partners, not just one partner. Is it worth trying to work through to see if that's true? If so, rather than jumping to anger, first try a more open, playful approach, such as 20-questions or an 'ask me anything.' Mutually establish the ground rules up front before anyone asks any questions.įor example, here are some sample ground rules:ġ) On individual slips of paper, each partner writes down ten questions that they want to know about the other partner. Maybe she's emotionally guarded for good reasons that have nothing to do with you personally. Perhaps she has quite a bit of emotional baggage that she is carrying from past relationships or maybe from growing up (e.g., parents who went through an ugly divorce). Question: What if my significant other wrongly believes that I am keeping information from her, but she has not shared much information about herself?Īnswer: This appears to be a rather new relationship in which there is not only low trust but also an imbalance of emotional and informational self-sharing. You might be pleasantly surprised that at some point your husband may decide to join you. It will at least give you a sense of clarity regarding what healthy behavior in a marriage should be like. If he doesn't go to therapy, you can go alone. Present it as an opportunity to grow closer and move forward, finally putting your infidelity behind you both. Talk with your husband while he is calm rather than in the heat of an argument.

The best way to do this is by working with a marriage counselor (clinical or counseling psychologist or licensed clinical social worker).

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